Good Grief
Good Grief was a series on my YouTube channel where I unpacked what it's really like to grieve in ways people don't expect, as we are afraid to talk about death and loss as a culture. As much fun as this series was to make, for a variety of reasons I’ve opted to move this topic to a written medium via my new blog on this site. I am keeping the videos up so please check it out and come back for more posts here on my blog about grief! And no hard feelings if while watching old videos you find yourself judging the varying shades of blinding blonde hair I was rocking in the pandemic and beyond while I was finding my way back to my dirty blonde roots! There’s showing interest to bond, learn, and grow with someone who’s grieving…and then there’s just being interested and going on your merry way after someone admits they aren’t doing well. Spoiler: don’t show interest in someone’s grief journey if you aren’t going to be present for them in the future.
Friendship can be tricky under less tragic circumstances, so once death comes to town it throws a huge wrench in the works. I break down my experiences and thoughts on friendship while grieving. Spoiler: listen more and check in on your grieving friends!
More dumb things that people do to you after someone dies that people should not do. Spoiler: other people’s grief is not about you.
What’s it like to experience Mother’s and Father’s day when your parents are dead? Spoiler: boy, do these Hallmark/social media brag holidays suck!
Haha, what a lie the 5 stages of grief is! Some parts are right, but there’s SO much more to it. Spoiler: it’s ridiculous people think all of this happens and in this order.
Ooh, let’s talk about a topic we’re not supposed to talk about at the dinner table! It’s time for bad spiritual advice stories! Spoiler: someone’s loss is not the time to convert them.
More of a personal share episode, but most people can find the message relatable. Spoiler: calling someone strong while they’re crying is dismissive AF.
The lesser talked about symptoms of grief is discussed in this episode of Good Grief. Spoiler: it’s not all about being sad.
This episodes tackles relationships or flying solo while grieving the death of a loved one. Spoiler: it’s all hard.
This may be the one of the worst series of all time (hell no I’m not watching the second season!) but how they handled Carrie’s grief was actually pretty realistic. Spoiler: grief isn’t all tears and being sad, y’all!
They say it takes a year to grieve but does it? Spoiler: it’s complicated.
Death anniversaries and/or death “birthdays” come around each year and can haunt the loved ones left behind. Spoiler: these days are WAY worse than birthdays.
Not grieving bad have a friend or partner who is? Here’s how you help! Spoiler: talk less, listen more, ask questions.
Social media is not a thing that existed pre-Y2K. So nobody knows what they’re doing regarding grief and loss rules. Spoiler: there are respectful ways to do things.
How to feel (slightly) better while grieving and my personal takes on getting through grief in one piece. Spoiler: it’s hard but take care of yourself.
It’s an assumption that everyone needs grief therapy after the death of a loved one. Let’s break it down. Spoiler: even if you choose to go to therapy, it’s not a magic bullet.
All of the worst things you can say and/or do to a person who is grieving. Spoiler: talk less, listen more, and ask questions.
This episode of Good Grief establishes a baseline about why grief about the death of a loved one is very different than other types of grieving. Spoiler: death is permanent.
Intro video about what I want the series to be and what qualifies me to discuss grief at length. Spoiler: my parents are dead.